When you are finding your feet in the relationship, all of a sudden he becomes cold, doesn’t call you like before postpones dates’. You feel you did or said something wrong so you try to find out but he stops calling automatically. Ladies I have great news for you, you can actually pull him back and watch him want you more.
Okay, girlfriend, the first thing you have to keep in mind is that men do not love like ladies. We can be on the same level of love for years without relapsing except he breaks our trust, but for a man, it doesn’t work that way.
After some time of showing so much emotional energy, he has to take some time out for himself to recover this happens even in long time relationships, so it has nothing to do with you. Another reason why a man might be withdrawn is because he is not living his purpose or he is not yet defined and he is not happy about it.
When a man is not living his purpose he becomes withdrawn sometimes from friends and family. So now you see it‘s not entirely your fault let’s look at things you should not do at this period, they are:
1. Convincing him : This might seem like a great approach to convince him that you love him, you are here to stay and all the preaching that comes with it. Sometimes you might want to go that far by expressing your feelings so he might come around, but this puts you at a very dangerous corner even if you give him an ultimatum that would move things ahead to the place in your relationship that you want. Why? Because he is not really making that decision based on what he wants or feels.
2. Building castles in Fantasyland : Many ladies do this, they tend to think that if things are going well with a guy, that he will naturally want to take the relationship to the next level. Her girlfriends do not help either they are already plotting the colour scheme for the wedding. When this guy is only living for the moment. So when he starts acting weird and you find out you are not the only damsel in his life, you get disappointed. Sometimes ladies make things worse by accepting a casual relationship i.e. not defining what they want in the relationship as time goes on they find out they want more from the relationship.
So ladies I hope you have come to realise that it is not entirely your fault that he acts cold sometimes. So whenever this happens do not panic my next article we will be discussing the best steps to take when this occurs.
Keep this in the back of your mind that what you need is a man that is mentally and physically ready for a relationship. Let’s see your comments and questions in the box.
Credits: Written by Jennifer Umoru